Thai Women, Part VI

Part six in a
series of eight posts written back in April of 2012 during and after a trip to
Thailand to teach advanced first aid. Parts
one, two, three, four, and five are here.

There is insight to be had even in the abuse of a
good thing. Those with most experience with that abuse should have the most
insight, but it never works that way. You have to stand outside the abuse in
order to understand it, which is precisely the opposite of virtue. You only
really understand virtue from the inside.

But let’s think about that fantasy the “irresistible
male” for a bit. What is really at the heart of it? Why is it so specifically a
male fantasy? Well, it really is about projection. The man projects his own
attitudes towards sex into the woman he is looking at, and then interprets her
actions based on his attitude (women do the same thing). I mentioned in an
earlier post the amount of work a high school jock has to do to overcome a
girl’s natural resistance and get her to sleep with him. The only reason why
this is surprising or frustrating to him is because he is assuming his own
sexual instincts in a female body. (I am not, of course, trying to perpetuate
the myth that women do not have sexual urges, or that they are not as strong as
male sexual urges. In fact, the only reason this myth has come about is because
we have interpreted “sexual urge” in overwhelmingly male terms.) If she really
were a male mind in a female body there would be no problem. They would look at
each other across the gym, nervously smile a few times, someone would break the
ice, and then they would have sex.

The reality is that this does not happen. This
should be all the evidence we need that women are wired differently than men,
and yet we go on believing the myth of instant sexual gratification. The
teenage jock, whether he is seventeen or seventy makes little difference,
simply cannot understand this, because, never having told his genitals to shut
up so he could listen, he still
believes that women, deep down inside, really do think of sex the way he does.
All he has to do is overcome all the guilt and hang-ups society has burdened
her with and allow her inner slut to bloom forth and then she will be his for
the taking. It may take a bit of effort, but not half as much effort as if he
tried things on her terms. No matter how much work you have to put in to
overcome a woman’s natural resistance to casual sex, it costs far less than
love. Relationship is much more work.

2 Comments

  1. Thank you for the book reccomendation. I will add it to my list of books to read someday (which is quite extensive.) Thank you for dropping by. God Bless.

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  2. Hello,

    I looked up your blog to thank you for the article which you gave to the Dignitas Magazine, it is a good reminder for Catholic women. Your blog is also thoughtful and insightful. I know this is not on topic, but I am always fascinated by people's book lists… yours has many of my favourites but I wanted to mention a series that you might not know about: The Masterful Monk series by Owen Francis Dudley. The books deal with the idea of Human Happiness, and how God is who we are striving for/why we were created.

    God bless, and thank you for striving to be a knight.

    Frances

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